Posts tagged marriage
Ugh…what do they want from me??
0okay, so I met this wonderful man, who happens to live in Africa. Its been 5months since I met him, and I was gonna go and visit him in July. this is the business – I had wonderful feelings for this man. I even was beginning to love him. but everytime someone in my family heard about me going to visit him, they told me what a stupid person I was. how I was so stupid and wacked cause only a desperate person goes to Africa to meet someone. and Im confused and what about my children and all this noise. I am a 35yr. old woman. I want to see the world, I want love and adventure. and it seems like all they want is to bring me down.
so last nite, I broke things off with him, and ever since then- my heart has been hurting. I just don’t know what to do………………………….
My husband is a JERK
0We’ve been married 30+ years and been through it all. Awhile ago he tells me he’s going on a trip, taking two weeks vacation from his job and driving 1000 miles away to visit his sister and friends in a town we lived in 21 years ago. He never once said I was welcome to come. And he announced he was taking my car (because his is too old and rickety). He borrowed a buddies car. Keep in mind the man makes 1/2 what I do and relies on me for everything. I’m his meal ticket. He was laid off for 8 months recently and now our mortgage is in danger. He wants to spend time with his sister, who is older and ailing, yes, but I know he wanted more to spend time with his drinking buddies he wanted to do all this without me. He planned it all to be a surprise for everyone, which really made him a hero for showing up out of the blue. He’s just a jerk. He’s on his trip now and I really can’t form the words to show how good I feel that he’s having a good time. Jerk jerk jerk.
My Horrible Day
0Well after settling my feelings about my old exboyfriend, I realized that they are very strong. Only thing is, he doesn’t/never has/never will feel the same about me. Why hook up with me then? I don’t quite understand. WHY? Why didn’t I know not to? Why did he make the first move? Why am I always thinking about it? The funny thing is, he really doesn’t care. I just don’t understand…
Is there something wrong with me? Is there something wrong with the way I feel? I guess I can’t change the way I feel, but think about how awkward it will be the next time I see him again. Knowing that he knows I like him, and me knowing that he doesn’t feel the same. He probably never will. The saddest part is that I had to be drunk out of my mind to actually hook up with him. And that the only time I will, is also the last time I will.
My life is beyond ironic at times. I just want to write a story about it. So dramatic and playful, I’m never fully bored. I wish there was a way I could see my life without feelings for him. But either way, I would still find or acknowledge feelings if they weren’t found beforehand. When you become physically attracted to someone, and start to become intimate, THE ATTRACTION IS THERE. FEELINGS WILL BE THERE.
So why didn’t anyone ever warn me about this three years ago? Why didn’t anyone reach out to me and say “Let go, and don’t look back”?
I’ll tell you why. The same reason I’m still in love with him;
He is a sweetheart. He is caring. He is beautiful. He is funny. He is smart. He is easy-going. He is fun to be around. Nothing like a douchebag, and always considerate of others. He looks at me differently than anyone who’s ever looked at me before. Sadly; he’s all I want, AND MORE.
…But he’s also EXACTLY what I don’t have, and never will.
FML?